High-Earning Men Want Stay-at-Home Wives?
Posted by: idak on: August 22, 2008
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Read this statement below from Joan Williams, director of the Center for WorkLife Law at the University of California and an expert on work and family life issues:
Men who are in the upper ranks of their profession with stay-at-home-wives earn 30% more than men who are married to women who work. Those men who want to reach the highest rungs of their career and earn the most money often need a stay-at-home wife to take care of all other aspects of their life, including raising a family. “And since many women in business school marry those men, they end up being stay-at-home wives, regardless of their own vision of what they wanted from their careers,” Williams said.
See, I’m not yet a mother with little ones, and I still have dreams of my future career, wanna earn something with my bare hands, wanna make people I loved happy, wanna help people in need, wanna thank God for this blessing by not staying-at-home-doing nothing, wanna be an independent woman, wanna accomplish the 5th Pillar (rukun Islam), want all the best for myself and for the people. Staying at home is boring, it’s the most dull task I’ve ever known. Doing nothing, watching tv, eating, shopping, and what, waiting for your hubby back from work?
To me, stating a career plan could have two versions of answers: being a single, and being a destined married woman. As a single, I’m quite sure that every woman in this whole world wanna taste the lurky challenge everywhere. They won’t satisfy if only experience just little part of those confrontation for two, three, four, of five years at maximum. If only they have more time to spend, I believe they would spend at least 10 to 15 years. Being a married woman, believe me, there is no woman who don’t like babies, it’s a natural instinct. Women are soft, and liked to be treated softly. If God gives amanah to family to have a kid, then concentrate on raising him/her is the best way. No one has intention to destroy their family life, no one would even dare to think to fail in it. Having such an abundant prosperity in this worldly life means nothing if you are unsuccessful in maintaining the balance with home.
Yet, only if I meet someone who is very understanding the way I am, if and only if he gives me freedom to choose for the beginning, not forcing his will with no strong reasoning, only and if only he gives me choices what to do if I stay-at-home, and only if there is a clear statement from both side about what managing things in a family, and other conditions, I would rather ‘stay-at-home-doing-many-businesses’. Well, it’s a choice anyway. So what would you choose, women?
3 Responses to "High-Earning Men Want Stay-at-Home Wives?"
April 1, 2009 at 12:28 am
I agree! I went to university and got an Ed. Degree and I like to think that I didnt spend 30,000 dollars and 5 years of my life to get a degree that I wont use. However, when I married my (successful) husband he assured me there was no need to work. Although we do not yet have a family, when we are blessed with Children I would consiter it an Honor to stay home and raise them.
I like the line “Having such an abundant prosperity in this worldly life means nothing if you are unsuccessful in maintaining the balance with home”
Good Post.
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September 18, 2009 at 10:50 pm
In response to: “Staying at home is boring, it’s the most dull task I’ve ever known. Doing nothing, watching tv, eating, shopping, and what, waiting for your hubby back from work?”
Having been, more or less, a stay at home mom for the past nineteen years, I can say that raising children is anything but boring and that it takes everything one has to do it well. It is so much work, but work that makes a huge difference for generations to come. Working away from home looks very, very appealing when the baby is screaming and the toddler is throwing a tantrum…keeping the welfare of the kids in mind is not always easy. Running off to work looks like heaven much too often.
Also, in defense of stay at home moms, many of us end up doing volunteer work when the kids go off to school. Our desire to help others/make a difference moves from potty training to helping the less fortunate, to aiding those who need it. Many, many charities and religious institutions are run by moms who choose to manage the homefront full time.
Thanks for your post and keep it up…may God bless your future with His leading, whether it involves a husband or not…:)
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August 22, 2008 at 11:01 am
I must say this is a great article i enjoyed reading it keep the good work